From out of the ashes comes the phoenix. From death emerges life,
and so on in the eternal cycle. This site is dedicated to the belief
that our personal grief can lead to our personal growth and a widening
of awareness and caring for all of those around us who suffer loss.
The process of bereavement leads us on a path to greater understanding
and acceptance of the cycle of life and death. From this understanding
and greater caring the bereaved are able to bring a new perspective
into their lives and a new gift into their worlds. Through this
process they renew themselves and their communities, while preserving
the meaning of the life of the person they have lost.
Examples of renewal can be seen in the work of Nancy Brinker who
started the Susan E. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation which sponsors
the Race for the Cure, and in the work of Katie Couric who is courageously
raising the country's awareness about colon cancer prevention. Many
others have sought to raise people's consciousness about the illnesses
and crimes which brought their loved one's life to a premature end.
Still others seek to carry on the legacy of the life work of those
they have loved.
In carrying out this work, the bereaved bring a gift to the community,
a gift which can lead to the renewal of the community. Many other
bereaved people have brought gifts to their communities, be it through
changing their own lives, helping their families, or reaching out
to their local communities. They may start foundations, write about
their experiences, create memorials, or make new contributions to
their spiritual communities.
Such transformation and renewal is possible for all of us who have
suffered the loss of a family member or friend, or who have suffered
loss through illness or other difficult circumstances. Renewal is
a stage in the path of healing, as well as the beginning of creating
a new life, a life that integrates the experience of love and loss,
life and death. Grief and Renewal. com is dedicated to providing
ideas and support for those of us in the process of renewing our
lives. It is dedicated to those who may be in the process of creating
something new that will help to reduce the suffering of others.
This new creation may be for themselves, their immediate family,
local community, or directed towards a larger cause.
To this end Grief and Renewal.com will provide links to sites which
may foster the efforts of the bereaved to give their loss meaning
by making a contribution or gift of their experience. The site will
provide information about grief and grieving and links to the other
excellent websites which provide information about bereavement.
We will provide stories by and about others who are working towards
renewal, and a mail list in which discussions about efforts can
occur. We will provide book reviews and resource information.
Grief and Renewal.Com has a shopping site with items that may support
personal and community renewal. The revenue derived from the site
and from our affiliations with other sites such as Amazon.Com will
be used to support the costs of running Grief and Renewal.com.
May this site inspire and support you on your journey of renewal.
Laura Slap-Shelton, Psy.D.
Fax: (207) 282-5895
Laura Slap-Shelton, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist who graduated
Hahnemann University Medical School's graduate program in psychology
in 1988. She has a specialty in clinical neuropsychology. Dr. Slap-Shelton
has written on a wide variety of topics including child psychotherapy,
the intersection of psychoanalytic theory and neuroscience, and grief.
She has published a children's book on stress and relaxation, and
is currently working on a children's book about grief, a grief journal
and a book on young widows.
Dr. Slap-Shelton's interest in grief was stimulated by the tragic
loss of her husband when she was 35 years old and the parent of
her 13-month-old daughter. Her grief journey opened new perspectives
on life and led to an interest in other people's grief experiences.
Describing grief as a "terrible gift" she became especially
interested in how people renew themselves and their lives following
devastating loss. She noted that out of the process of renewal often
came the ability to find and share new found wisdom, compassion
and insight as a significant part of the recovery process.
Dr. Slap-Shelton's and her daughter's journey has taken them from
Philadelphia, PA. to Kennebunk, Maine where they are beginning their
adventure in their new blended family. Dr. Slap-Shelton has a psychology
practice in Biddeford, Maine. Her experience of rebuilding her life
has inspired her to launch Grief and Renewal. com, a web site dedicated
to supporting others who are transforming their grief into a meaningful
legacy for themselves, their families and their communities.
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